ACCEPTING THE BAD TO APPRECIATE THE GOOD
The beginning of this academic year was a mess! After a tumultuous year, I was emotionally all over the place come September. It felt like my whole world was ending and I literally was sick of it so I decided I was going to pull myself out of (what felt like) a never ending downward spiral and buy Rhonda Byrne's The Secret. Fast forward 7 months and I'm feeling more and more like myself each day. But this post is not a sob story (don't worry), this story is about the hype surrounding the law of attraction/positive thinking that seems to be all over the internet at the moment.
Now, I love a good bit of positive thinking. I think it's really important to maintain a positive outlook on life and to count your blessings everyday, because everyone has something to be grateful for. However, Rhonda Byrne's book and other advocates of Law of Attraction style thinking all seem to be missing (or at the very least omitting) something very important.
Not in a sarcastic, 'chin up' sort of way but in a real, devastating sort of way. Life, unfortunately, is not all sweetness and light and sometimes bad things happen that you can't just positive think away. You shouldn't have to either.
I was watching a video posted by Lilia from LilyLike.com where she explains Taoism - a philosophy that believes that life is about the good and the bad. She made some wonderful points and I would highly recommend you go over and watch it. I totally agreed with her. I believe a little bit of wallowing is good for you. It gives you time to process everything and to come to terms with the negativity you're experiencing.
I think positive thinking/law of attraction kind of tells us to consistently put on a brave face and to focus on the future blessings to come. However, I think this does more harm than good; instead of dealing with the negativity, you internalise it and suppress the pain. This only leads to an unexpected and sometimes cataclysmic outburst.
Moreover, dealing with the bad - actually acknowledging your pain and accepting all your feelings - takes the power out of them, placing it firmly back in your hands. It also allows you to really appreciate all the good stuff that happens in your life. When you go through a tough experience, really acknowledge that it was difficult and eventually overcome it, you can cherish the good times more and you become more resilient. You can build your strength in peace and quiet rather than trying to explain away an unexpected meltdown. That's not saying that you need to go through tough times on your own, you can choose people who will support you and have your best interests at heart to share those feelings with.
Leave me a comment and let me know what you think of the law of attraction/positive thinking!